Some Say Love. . .

The qualities and characteristics of love I seek to experience in my future relationships are honesty, supportiveness, companionship, acceptance, and kindness. I hope to have a patient loving relationships, where we feel comfortable communicating with one another. I think a successful, loving relationship means that each person needs to be selfless at times and supportive of the other. No person or relationship is perfect and it should not come easily. I hope to find a love worth fighting for through all our arguments and rough times. These qualities are often portrayed in songs. An example of this is in Adele’s latest song “Skyfall” in which she states “we will stand tall and face it all together.” Another representation of this is in Beyoncé’s song “Countdown” in which she states, “There's ups and downs in this love/ Got a lot to learn in this love/ Through the good and the bad, still got love/Dedicated to the one I love.” In these lines Beyoncé explains that although their love is not perfect, they still work through the good and bad and remain dedicated and supportive. The lines “loving you is some kind of wonderful because you’ve shown me just how much you care” in Natalie Cole’s song, “This will be and Everlasting love” expresses the caring love needed in a relationship. The companionship and support I seek in love are best described in Adele’s “Make You Feel My Love” when she says ‘When the rain/ Is blowing in your face/ And the whole world/ Is on your case/ I could offer you/ A warm embrace/ To make you feel my love.” I also hope to find someone who accepts me the way I am and does not expect me to be perfect. I do not expect my future relationships to be perfect because no one is perfect. In the song “Just What I Needed” by the cars, the singer explains that does not care if his girlfriend is not perfect and talks in her sleep, he still loves her and accepts her and is “just what he needed.” I personally do not buy into the “soulmate” idea, but I think people have different definitions of what a soulmate is. Similar to the article, I do not think that it is realistic for people to believe that they will find the perfect “Mr. or Ms. Right.” No one is perfect, so no relationship can be perfect. If people go into marriage expecting their spouse to always be perfect and constantly get along with them, then they are being unrealistic. I do believe that their are people out there who you may be more compatible with, but I completely reject the notion of having a one true soulmate. Much like relationships one has with his or her parents and friends, marriage has its ups and downs and need work at times.